WHEN YOU’RE TIRED, FRUSTRATED AND JUST HAD ENOUGH...
Raising this child has probably been one of my most toughest life challenges...
Ive learnt that patience is NOT a virtue... it’s a pill called Valium... JOKES! 😅 It’s called fermented grapes 🤣🤣🤣 Again, kidding! I don’t even drink 😅
So if I don’t pop pills and I don’t drink how exactly do I cope when all I want to do is either a) Drown Bean in the sea or b) runaway? .
I choose love.
That...or pass her onto my husband when he’s available but in most cases I’m on my own so love it is...
Choosing to love her and not fight back allows me to find the 5 seconds of patience that I need to figure out why she’s acting out in the first place... In a fit of rage, I personally do not comprehend rationalism (neither does she) so it’s in mine and her better interest to not add fuel to HER flame (at least 😅)
Choosing to love her allows me to muster up the energy to get out of bed at 2am, walk down the passage in complete darkness to make that bottle of tea or boob (back in the day) that she’s demanding...
Choosing to love her allows me to wake up 3 hours later (having barely slept) with smile on my face ready to start the day again...
Choosing to love her ALSO allows me to realize that I can take a break and hand her over to another family member or care taker for a few hours whilst I piece myself back together... Taking a break is not failure, you're human. (This was harder for me to accept when Bean was a new born, insert ____ neurotic parent 😅 but if you are a new mom you don’t need to make my same mistakes) .
Choosing to love her helps remind me that these phases too shall pass and she’s not going to be this small forever, so in the greater scheme of things, these events are actually so small and so not worth my energy to fight back and get angry about.
I know this looks good on paper and sometimes a lot harder to implement in real
life but in my experience love conquers all... Colossians 3:14
(WOAH! Is Cath about to quote the Bible!!!)
Yeah guys, regardless of your religious status I feel this verse applies! “clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience”
It defuses most situations...
But Cath... how the hell am I suppose to do all of that when I’m sleep deprived and F*ing angry...
You just do my friend... you just do.
It becomes second nature - the more you practice it...You won’t always get it right but I can guarantee that when you do, even though it may not solve the problem immediately, it will set a part of you free - and in that space you will find clarity to make better decisions to try tackle the problem.
Gosh, look at me.., preaching like I’ve been doing this for years... I haven’t.
But I speak truth when I find something that works! .
What did I say in the beginning of this year? Speak your truth and spread it fast! .
So it’s your turn to share your truth, how do you feel about the above and what would you recommend...
Remember... be kind!
All my love
Following the Bean is a two-part team consisting of 1 x superhero Mom and 1 x model-extraordinaire Bean. Mom (aka Catherine Basson), a professional photographer by day and Bean-blogger by night has 3 years of fashion-knowledge sneakily tucked under her belt while Bean (aka Rebecca Aaliyah Alexander Basson) is a part time baby and full time model.